Reframing the Negative for the Optimist

"Positive Reframing" is the technique optimists use to find the positive features of an apparent negative situation.  Once you have practiced 'reframing' a couple of times you will find that it comes almost naturally.  If you are around an active group of re-framers, you will learn even faster.  Look for a positive support group-- anything from a group on Children's Literature at the library to an aquafitness class at the local pool to studying the Gospel of John with a Church group...  Reframing reduces distress and anxiety and gives one the boost of confidence that is often the motivation to overcome the problem regardless of how challenging it might look.


The table below has some examples of how you can flip words over to reframe certain situations. When you start to feel pressured or tense in a situation, try to use reframing to look at the situation differently.

Negative Oulook
Positive Reframe
stubborn
determined/tenacious/ambitious/committed
stingythrifty/fiscally responsible/disciplined
bossya leader/an organizer/visionary
loud
uninhibited/gregarious/extroverted/
shyquiet/thoughtful/deep-thinking/reserved
picky
attends to details/fastidious/thorough
won't follow rules
creative/innovative/has leadership potential
talks too muchoutgoing/problem-solves verbally/sociable/knowledgeable

**structure for above table is found at http://edis.ifas.ufl.edu/fy517
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With gratitude, I base this blog on the book "Learn to be an Optimist: A Practical Guide to Achieving Happiness" by Lucy MacDonald, a Quebec-based motivational speaker with an academic background in psychology and counseling.

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